A Kitten on a Ferris Wheel
April 18, 2008|Comments (7)
I have excellent news! Last evening, Josh and I went to Bethany Christian Services for an adoption orientation and were overwhelmed with a feeling of belonging — as if everything in our lives were leading us to be in that place at that moment.
While living in Washington (stationed at Ft. Lewis), I went through all the State’s classes, got our house inspected, and was waiting for placement in the foster-to-adopt program when we received orders for Ft. Benning, Ga. I have to tell you that a little part of me gave up after that. Josh had been deployed during the process (which is exhausting) and by the time we got to Georgia, I did not feel like starting over from scratch. As much as I longed for and dreamed of having a child to love, I felt as though the sudden move was a sign or something. Maybe someone out there knew something I didn’t.
This is the part where I start to tear up… you see, I really do have the most amazing husband on God’s green earth. Josh started doing research on his own (late nights on the computer and talking to people in the community) in an attempt to figure out how we could adopt a child. Meanwhile, I went to Mexico on a medical mission trip (where I met a delightful woman who told me about Bethany). Even after hearing about Bethany, I came home discouraged. Not Josh. Josh called them, emailed them, and set up the meeting. He put in a pass (something you have to do in the military so you can have a day or two off) and took me to Bethany Christian Services. Here was my prayer the whole way there: “Please, God, don’t let this be a mistake. Please don’t let me get my hopes up again.”
I have to tell you, I sat there in a state of shock. Josh held my hand and I clung to him — as frightened as a kitten on a Ferris wheel. As the meeting went on, I felt myself relax and this delicious calm washed over me. It was then very clear that I was exactly where I was meant to be and this would be the place that would find us a child to love. And not just any child — the right child. The child that was meant to be in our home and share our life.
Have you ever experienced a moment like that? Have you adopted before or are you in the process?
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Morning, Lacy!
Happy Friday! 
There isn’t a forum topic, hon; it’s just a place where people can hang out and talk.
Now, about your post here: I LOVE that Irish Setter! LOL He looks so happy – “Ahhh, now THIS is heaven!” LOLOL And that pie looks positively sinful.
If I wasn’t trying to watch what I’m eating, I would sooooo be on that thing. LOL
I have never adopted a child, Lacy, but from reading what you’re going through – and from what I’ve heard from others who have gone through it, it’s a very emotional process. My brother-in-law is always telling me, “Everything is as it needs to be,” and he’s right. You weren’t at the right place at the right time before, but it seems like you are now, and that’s what matters.
Don’t give up on your dream for the right child, Lacy. Ask the universe to help you and your child can find each other (if you haven’t found each other already). You’ll know when it’s happened, my friend; you’ll feel the connection… *hug*
Happy Friday, Lacy!
I’ve never adopted – obviously – but it is something I often think about for the future. I have… shall we say “issues” that leave my chances of having my own kids very slim. I’ve talked to the boyfriend about it, as our future together is something we talk about a lot and we don’t talk about marriage and our life together without talking about having kids. He says that he is 100% sure, deep down in his gut, that we will be able to have at least one child of our own. I have to admit he has higher hopes for that than I do, but regardless I suppose we just have to wait and see what happens. There is nothing in the world that I want more than to have a family with him, when the time is right. I can get pretty down about it, despite having known my chances of being able to have my own babies since I was 15 it’s still not something I can quite accept and I hope he is right and maybe it’s something I won’t have to accept at all. Doctors CAN be wrong, afterall. But I’ve let boyfriend know that if we can’t start a family on our own I want to try to adopt, because I really want to be a mom some day. And knowing there are so many kids out there who need a loving home but don’t have one… well… it makes sense that two people who love each other and want to have a family should try to give at least one of those kids a home.
I agree with Holly. When you find the child that is right for you and Josh, you’ll both feel it and it’ll be one of those things that you “just know”. *hugs*
Hi Lacy, I do hope that all that you are going through will work out beautifully. I have never adopted a child, but know several who have and it can be very emotional and very rewarding. {hugs}
Your pie looks very good.
Thank you, Michelle, Leah, and Holly, for your encouraging words. I cannot begin to tell you how very much they mean to me. We are so excited about Bethany Christian Services — we feel like it is the right fit for us. Our IMPACT classes (I’ve already been through them) start the 22nd. I’ll keep you posted on our progress.
Blessings and thanks!
Lacy
How exciting. I have a friend who is in Africa. They are adopting 2 children from there. She is updating her blog regularly. Here blog address is:
http://tuiningatreasures.blogspot.com/
Even if you are not going the same route, it is so exciting to go on the adventure with someone as they go on their journey. I think adopting is fabulous and if God led my husband in that direction, I would be so on board with it. You are truly blessed to have this opportunity. I wish you all the best. From my little acquaintance here on your blog, you would raise children in a wonderful environment and any child would be blessed to find a home with you. Good luck in your endeavours.
Hello!
I just found your blog on Rhonda’s blog and thought I’d leave a comment. I live in Indiana and we have adopted two babies~! We also attended a Bethany meeting, but our babies came to us in different ways. I’d love to give you some encouragement, and I urge you to email me privately.
It’s an amazing blessing. When that baby is placed in your empty arms, it all of a sudden makes sense… all the waiting and trying and crying and waiting some more… you are finally on the other side of the “Why Lord?’s”. And all the waiting was suddenly for a reason!!
Email me!
Hi Lacy,
our chosen baby has just turned 32 and when he came into our lives it was wonderful we went instantly from being a couple to a family, we bonded instantly, and that bond has never changed. With a wonderful gyne we went on to have natural children and we lost a lot of babies. My youngest is coming up to 24
Lacy please feel free to email me for support and help
Hugs