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The Importance of Feeling Valued

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  • Allan - Lacy, you need never doubt what a capable woman you are. Plus your kind heart is evident in all you do.ReplyCancel

    • Simple Livin' gal - Thank you! What an extraordinary compliment — especially because I know that you are speaking from the heart — and it quite made my week (possibly month). <3ReplyCancel

  • Dawn - You are a rockstar! Well said.ReplyCancel

  • Jana Frerichs - You work harder than anybody I know. You are an excellent mother and wife and I have never doubted your ability to do anything you wanted. I am proud to call you my friend. You have taken time out of your busy schedule to console me when I was having doubts about myself! You are amazing.ReplyCancel

    • Simple Livin' gal - Jana, my lovely friend, you are such a breath of fresh air! I love how you fully embrace life and all of its bizarre antics, gorgeous mysteries, and dazzling complexities. You inspire me! You’ve overcome so much and with such grace & humility.

      Thank you. Thank you for the honor of your friendship. I love your heart!ReplyCancel

  • Jana Frerichs - And… I forgot to say, you are a rockstar. You rock like KISS! Love ya Lacy!!!!ReplyCancel

  • Dianne - Lacy, what a wonderful post! I have no doubt that you could easily be the CEO of a Fortune 500 company if you so chose, but why should/would you?! You have the most important job ever now. You are making memories for your family that will be priceless. You excel at everything you do! Just enjoy the beautiful journey…ReplyCancel

    • Simple Livin' gal - Dianne,

      Bless you for your kind and wise words! I cannot begin to tell you how much they mean to me. Indeed, I do feel that my job as a mother is the most important one (and best) I’ve ever had. He’s such a terrific little kid and he teaches me so much about life.ReplyCancel

  • Carolina De Medeiros - I think we need to re-create create the term “Stay at Home Mom”. It does not cover all we do, and we rarely “stay at home”. I like “Rockstar Mom”. That seems more fitting, especially when it comes to you! You do more as a mom than most people do working 4 jobs. You truly inspire me my friend.

    I have worked since I was 7. Had my first corporate job when I was 16yrs old and never stopped working since then. I feel truly lucky to be able to be a “stay at home Rockstar” for my kids. I know not all families can afford to do so, and admire my partner for working so hard so we can give our children that. We both genuinely appreciate each other and help each other.

    I’m positive Josh knows and is very proud of the Rockstar mom you are and brags about you at work all the time. As he has admitantly said he has rubbed your amazing home cooked meal in his soldier’s faces. Ahahahajaja poor guys. So even when we don’t get the daily appreciation, it doesn’t mean they aren’t bragging about us or thinking about us somewhere else. 😉ReplyCancel

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